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What is he doing with that drumstick? #sol20

I can count — on one hand — the number of times I came downstairs for dinner during the first six weeks after my surgery. Therefore, I noticed some changes to the way things are typically done by the time I was well enough to get downstairs.

Take the drumstick (i.e., a chicken leg), for example. Prior to my surgery, Ari would only eat a chicken breast cut up. He didn’t like dark meat (just like my husband!) at all. Lo and behold, I came downstairs a week ago and my son asked for a drumstick.

Why on Earth would he be requesting a drumstick? I wondered. Was he going to bang it on the table? Shove it in his mouth and choke?

None of those things. He requested it because he liked to hold it and eat it.

“Yeah, he’s been doing that for a couple of weeks now,” Marc replied.

Must be the influence of his Bubbe and Zayde who like dark meat, I thought.

“What else has changed?” I asked.

Rather than telling me, I found out over the course of the next week. Nothing major, but I noticed there was a bit more ice cream being scooped than when mommy is in charge.

This evening’s dinner was roasted chicken, cauliflower rice, and peas. There were drumsticks and breasts. Guess what Ari selected first?

A Drumstick!
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22 thoughts on “What is he doing with that drumstick? #sol20

  1. What a surprise for you to see the changes. Good changes, I think. A focus seems to be on the drum sticks, but the real change is the bit of more ice-cream. 🙂

    1. Baked goods have been flowing over here as well! (It was a little less crazy, in terms of sweets, with Passover being this week since we were limited with what we can eat. But that ends tomorrow night.)

  2. This makes me remember my youngest liking a food exclusively then suddenly not eating it anymore. Only the beginning of the interesting changes and preferences … and a great story for retelling in the future: “Do you remember when you started liking drumsticks?” The ice cream made me smile and triggered a memory of a comedy routine about a dad giving kids a breakfast of cake, as, after all, it has eggs in it … as always the photo and its artistry are gorgeous. Scrumptious!

    1. Cake for breakfast gives me an idea of how I should spend my upcoming birthday. Tee-hee-hee.

      And, yes, I can imagine asking Ari that question in the future. His love of drumsticks appeared during the global pandemic.

  3. Your small changes at home attributed to growing, time passing, and change in routine, make me think of the larger changes taking place in our learning communities and our greater communities. What changes will we see as we come back to the “downstairs”?

    1. Susan! Your question: What changes will we see as we come back to the “downstairs?” is a good one. It’s something I have been pondering all day since I initially read your comment. (It was a busy day of quarantine schooling here so I’m just getting down to responding to comments now.) There are so many changes — many not-so-good — that we’re going to notice when we’re allowed downstairs again.

  4. Love the symbolism in this post, Stacey. Yes, drumstick is different. And more ice cream. But the bigger idea: Ari is growing up, getting older, changing. And as Susan suggests in her comment, this message likely resonates with all of us, as we wrestle with the fact that the only constant in life is change. Great piece!

  5. Like Susan, I thought of the larger changes that this post symbolizes. Someday (soon?) we will all come downstairs – I wonder what small changes we will find? On a less metaphorical note, I’m glad you’re back to family dinners and that Ari’s palette is expanding. Chicken & ice cream seem like reasonable changes, and I know my children think a little more ice cream is an excellent thing!

    1. I worry about the changes we’re going to see in our new hometown. Lancaster has been booming for the past decade. I worry that businesses will not be able to sustain the prolonged stay-at-home closures (though I agree with these closures completely). It’s something I think about constantly.

      On a more upbeat note, there’s been a lot of baked goods consumed here in the past five weeks.

  6. I can only imagine how odd that feels, changes going on in your own home while you are apart from these everyday routines. Now that I’m a parent of young adults (really, not-so-young, my oldest turns 27 this year!), your post mirrors what it’s like when the children spend more time out of your house than in, their separate lives becoming the norm, the main topic of conversation.

    1. I don’t even want to imagine what it’s going to be like when I live with my kids every day. Of course, I want them to grow up and thrive with their own lives. But thinking about that now has me misty-eyed.

  7. Love the photo of Ari eating his drumstick! Small changes, and I bet you are right about wanting to do what his grandparents do! It is something how these small changes happen and become part of daily life habits and routines. It is funny how our taste in foods change as we grow older! I am glad to hear that you are able to come downstairs again. You are on the mend!

  8. It’s amazing how quickly things change. We don’t notice it so much when we are present on a daily basis. An eye-opening experience for you seeing Ari with a drumstick. Cute picture too. Glad you are on the mend and can start dishing out the ice cream again.

  9. Change can be so unexpected, but he definitely seems to be exploring new choices and growing up! Sometimes we just have to let things happen with our kids and realise each one is a unique individual..!

  10. Hi, Stacey!! I love the title of this piece. And I love this line: Rather than telling me, I found out over the course of the next week. It’s like we were finding out right along with you.

    I hope you are up and about more now and that your recovery is going as well as can be expected.

    1. I walked around the block by myself for the first time today (about 4/10 mile). It was my first time out — SOLO — in nearly seven weeks. So, recovery is coming along, albeit slowly.

  11. I was lured in by your title and realizing you have had a very challenging and isolating 6 weeks! It is amazing what happens when parents aren’t around! While I’ve been “Meme in charge” while essential employees work (*week 5), preschoolers have learned to make their own sandwiches and crack eggs for daily scrambled egg breakfasts!

    1. Everyone who tells me how hard it’s been being cooped up for five weeks, gets a semi-pleasant notification that I’ve been staying at home for two extra weeks. It’s been a long haul (and we’re still going!).

      You’re doing amazing things with your grands while their parents are at work. Keep cooking!

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