Last week, I taught Isabelle what the word flexible meant since my husband had to work late. She didn’t like the idea of showering before dinner, rather than after. I told her she needed to be flexible when daddy had to work late.
Today was another one of those days I had to ask Isabelle to be flexible. She was all set for a play date with her new friend Abigail. We baked gf brownies yesterday and she was excited to bring them over to Abigail’s house for a play date snack. And I was looking forward to the play date too since Abigail’s family just moved to our area from New York. After yesterday’s snow day, I was looking forward to some adult conversation.
My phone pinged during breakfast, but I ignored it. Afterward I found out, via Facebook Messenger, Abigail woke up with a stomach bug. She wasn’t going to school. In addition, her mom needed to reschedule the playdate. Isabelle was disappointed.
“Wha we gonna do today?” Isabelle asked.
I had no clue. There was only a half-day of school due to a faculty in-service. In addition, school was already delayed an hour because of yesterday’s snow. That barely left me with enough time to think of possibilities. After all, I was supposed to use the little time I was given this morning for some revision work.
“You and mommy will do something fun.”
“What?” she inquired.
“Let me think about it. Maybe we’ll go to Midtown Scholar or to Sky Zone.”
I felt guilty. But then, on my way upstairs to brush my teeth before I took Isabelle to school, I was checking Facebook and saw this on a friend’s wall:
Our children should know how to deal with difficulty. It is okay for them to feel chilly, hungry, or bored. We don’t have to race to satisfy their every request. Many of our efforts to protect our children from discomfort simply weaken them and do not prepare them to deal with greater discomforts in the future. (SOURCE: Unknown)
Reading that reminded me I am not a cruise director. Isabelle would be fine if she didn’t have another play date today. In fact, if our afternoon consisted of the two of us coming home and making a fort by the fireplace, like we did yesterday, then it would be fine. It would be okay for Isabelle to live with the disappointment of a canceled playdate. I didn’t have to swoop in and come up with big, new plans. Life would go on.
By the time I arrived at school, I found Jess, another parent, was also dealing with a change of plans. She and her son Kai had tickets to see “Schoolhouse Rock” in Lancaster. Most Lancaster schools were closed today due to the snow so the theater canceled the show since most of the ticket holders were school groups. Jess, too, was left without plans. So, we decided to do something together. After going through a bunch of options, we settled on lunch at Starbucks, followed by a walk through Plow & Hearth (which happens to be one of Isabelle’s favorite stores). Nothing big, fancy, or far away. Just two preschool kids having a meal together with their moms.
Isabelle and Kai ran around for a few minutes and then played nicely inside of Plow & Hearth. By the time 1:30 p.m. rolled around, the two of them were ready to go home for rest time. (Fortunately, Isabelle is even napping today!)
I hope Isabelle learned a few things today:
- People get sick and plans change. We have to be adapt to what life hands us.
- When one door closes, another door opens. (Trite, but true.)
- You can make your own fun anywhere. (Just look at the photo below.)