For the first (almost) two years of our daughter’s life, my husband and I only spent one night away from her when we attended a friend’s wedding in Boston. Sure I traveled to conferences or speaking engagements and he traveled for work. However, we never got away together until our five year wedding anniversary. At the time Isabelle was on the verge of turning two years-old. We figured it was time that we could leave her with Bubbe and Zayde. And you know what? We had a fantastic time being tourists in Manhattan for 72 hours. That was three days of eating in restaurants feeding just ourselves, going to Broadways shows, and staying up late. We had so much fun. Did we talk about Isabelle? Yes. A lot. However, even though we missed her, we were thankful for time to reconnect and do things as an adult couple.
Fast-forward to September of this year. I planned a surprise weekend getaway for Marc and I to Annapolis. This time my in-laws came to our house to watch Isabelle since it made the most geographic sense. This time we went away for two nights. We explored Historic Annapolis, ate leisurely meals, and even took a boat ride. Did we miss her? Yes. Of course. However, we relished the time we were able to spend having conversations as a couple.
Soon after our trip to Annapolis we decided we wanted to go away for our sixth wedding anniversary. We had a place in mind. A place about two hours west of here. My husband phoned his parents to ask if maybe they’d be willing to come to Pennsylvania again to watch Isabelle in late December. As doting grandparents they responded exactly how we thought they would… with an affirmative response.
On Saturday morning we packed up the car and headed west towards Bedford Springs, a town we had visited as family a little over two years ago. This time we armed ourselves with e-readers, hardcover books, workout clothes, and best of all 8:00 p.m. dinner reservations. We started our time at the resort with massage appointments, which instantly helped us relax. We spent an inordinate amount of time sitting side-by-side on chaise lounges reading books in silence on Saturday afternoon. In the evening, after FaceTiming with Isabelle, we ate a leisurely dinner. We turned in at midnight and I slept more soundly that night than I had in a hotel in a long, long time. (That’s because Izzy doesn’t sleep well in hotels!)
Here’s what we did on Sunday:
- Read by the fireplace
- Light lunch
- Eat dinner
- Roast marshmellows
Seriously, that was our Sunday. It was one of the most peaceful days I can remember having in the longest time!
Yesterday was our wedding anniversary. We slept-in, ate a leisurely breakfast, worked out, packed, ate lunch, and then headed home.
We missed Isabelle while we were away. We walked around the hotel saying things like, “Isabelle would love listening to the piano in the lobby” or “Can you imagine how long it would take to walk through the hotel with Isabelle if she saw all of these nutcrackers? She’d stop to kiss every one of them!” However, even though we couldn’t wait to get home to her, we enjoyed a couple of days of just being together. While neither of us would ever want our lives to go back to the days before Isabelle, we now know how much we need occasional weekends away. I felt guilty when I planned our trip to New York last year. After the quiet weekend we just spent together, I am confident about how healthy it is to take time away — just the two of us. I’m not sure when we’ll do it again, but I do know everyone wins when it happens since Isabelle loves spending time with her grandparents as much as we like spending time as a couple.