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Empathy is taught through showing, not telling.

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14 thoughts on “Empathy is taught through showing, not telling.

  1. Stacey,
    What a beautiful story about your daughter, Isabelle. Isn’t it so true that children learn more from example. I’m sure you were very proud of her. I am enjoying your audio slices.


  2. Very powerful. It is so important to teach those lessons when children are small so they become ingrained. It also speaks volumes of you as parents. You paid attention and noticed her behavior. In our busy lives I am not sure that parents are as aware of the positive behaviors of their children so that they can be noticed and nurtured.

  3. How precious! This reminds me of the quote (not sure by whom) “Live your life like no one is watching,” because the truth is that someone is always watching. Kudos to you and your husband for teaching with your actions. Glad those “lessons” are paying off.

  4. I love this, Stacey!

    I think we often assume that this is a natural response, and not something that needs to be taught… but it really is something we have to model for little ones and reinforce when they show they are caring for others.

  5. What a beautiful “Mommy-moment” for you to have captured. Someday, Isabelle will love knowing she mad you proud. I appreciate your perspective on modeling empathy, rather than forcing apologies. I struggle with this at school, often. It saddens me that children are lacking in empathy skills these days. It breaks my heart for so many of my students – both those that struggle with getting hurt, and those doing the hurting with very little impact on their self-conscious. Thanks for sharing this uplifting story!

    1. You might want to go on to Responsive Classroom’s website to learn more about the Apology of Action. I found that to be very effective when I was a classroom teacher. Good luck!

  6. I think this modeling is what is missing in some kids’ lives. When we are raised in a loving household, loving, caring behaviors are modeled for us because that is simply how we live. Yes, we may have to be more intentional about it when purposely teaching something to our kids; but we recognize when that is the case and know what needs to be done. I often marvel at how many kids really don’t know how to show that they are listening, caring, or most any other emotion. This is another reason why I admire Peter Johnston’s work in CHOICE WORDS and OPENING MINDS. He reminds us that language and expression make all the difference in how we interact with the world.

  7. What a beautiful story! It always amazes me how much kids actually do learn from our examples. It sounds like you and your husband are teaching Isabelle lots of important life lessons!

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